As a professional coaches, our job is often perceived as a giver of information and the person who can make changes and improve technique or results. While giving information is a part of what we do, we can only ever facilitate the effecting of change in an individual. That sounds quite grand but what I mean is; we can’t do it for you, nobody can. What we can do is help, guide and enable you as to how to best go about it, but how effective it is, is down to you.
Often with driving you find that people go out on track with an instructor who then barks information and commands at them for twenty minutes or so. On a surface level this may help to give you an approximate guide as to where the road goes and what you should be doing at each point. It certainly has its place as it can be useful in getting someone up to speed initially. It doesn’t however, teach you anything. This is regularly seen as coaching; it isn’t. Coaching is a collaborative process with the client at the centre. The true skill of a coach is in asking the right questions in order to drill down in to how someone thinks, feels and acts in order to deconstruct it and enable changes to take place.
The key thing is, all learning and behaviour takes place at the unconscious level of your mind, it is your programming. To change your programming takes time and persistent, dedicated practice, because of that, learning new skills or altering old ones can often seem and feel awkward until it becomes habit. In fact you only really know that you have mastered a new skill or updated an old one when it becomes your default behaviour when you’re under pressure and found you didn’t have to think about it. You therefore have to have the right mindset to be successful or your unconscious mind can actually work against you.
For learning or change to be effective there are a number of key points you have to accept. Knowing what you want to achieve is clearly important but you also HAVE to take 100% responsibility for your own progress. Giving even 1% of control to someone else means you are leaving more than you should to chance. Now, that does not mean do it all on your own! A skilful coach will both speed the process up in terms of how and why but also, importantly, in terms of keeping you on track and accountable as well as make sure you are practicing the right thing.